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Friday, April 19, 2013

Quarrels ~ Aphrodisiacs from A to Z

Quarrels are things I tend to avoid like a severe case of the cooties. I'm spectacularly non-confrontational (unless it's a matter of life or death). (Or chocolate, in which case, you bettah get to steppin'.) I'd rather talk calmly and rationally about stuff than have a knock-down, drag-out brawl. But, you know, sometimes your partner just pisses you off and shit gets real.

Y U SO SEX-AY?
Well, I suppose you could compare it to the reason why getting spooked by horror movies (as I wrote about last week) turns folks on: the physiological arousal is similar to that of sexual arousal (blood pumping/quickened breathing/adrenaline rushing, etc.). And, as we do after a fright, we seek some subsequent comforting from our partners (like, make-up sex).

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22 comments:

  1. Brandon AxApril 19, 2013 at 4:17 AM

    Yeah I try to avoid quarrels. I am usually quite a pleasant person, but I am one of those people that actually become more clear-headed and slightly vicious the angrier I get. Although make-up sex can be fun.

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    1. Mina LoboApril 20, 2013 at 6:17 PM

      I'm the opposite - anger makes me lose my mind, which is part of the reason I'd rather walk away and cool off, rather than flap my gums and say things which can never be unsaid.

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  2. RockyApril 19, 2013 at 7:16 AM

    I, too, dislike confrontation and believe in other avenues to stimulate the big-time passion! If I'm pissed, the last thing I want to do is have sex. But you are right. I know couples who thrive on the quarrel/makeup sex merry-go-round. And I'm happy for them, if that's what floats their boat!

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    1. Mina LoboApril 20, 2013 at 6:09 PM

      I've known folks like that too, and I just don't get it.

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  3. Yolanda RenéeApril 19, 2013 at 7:18 AM

    Sorry, I'm too angry for make up sex! :)

    Honestly, today, I'm even too tired to fight.

    Have to go back and read the one on fright. Don't recall sex after fear, but maybe my mind is shot.

    Love these posts!

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  4. JuliApril 19, 2013 at 7:58 AM

    We don't quarrel so much... but let me tell you, if you want to get my husband going, simply talk politics. Doesn't matter if your on "his" side or not, just get a good debate going. Sometimes I start a conversation about something I know NOTHING about just to get him going.

    So. Much. Fun.

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  5. UnknownApril 19, 2013 at 9:00 AM

    It always amazes me that people can be yelling one minute and kissing the next. When hubby and I have a quarrel, I don't speak to him for hours. He won't speak to me for days unless I swallow my pride and talk first. Somehow, I always do ...
    Fun post! :-)

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  6. JoJoApril 19, 2013 at 10:27 AM

    I hate fighting too, but I will say we do end up having make up sex afterwards...

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    1. Mina LoboApril 20, 2013 at 6:18 PM

      At least there's some reward at the end of it all. ;-)

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  7. Jules April 19, 2013 at 11:23 AM

    I can't help myself, I want to kiss his adams apple...LOL! Sorry, just been reading your links. If it's a quarrel with Ian Somerhalder then I'm all for it.

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  8. UnknownApril 19, 2013 at 5:38 PM

    Maybe it's the fear of almost losing that which is most important that makes us cling so tightly together afterwards.

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    1. Mina LoboApril 20, 2013 at 6:15 PM

      Melanie, I believe that's quite likely part of it. :-)

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  9. Tracy MooreApril 19, 2013 at 6:55 PM

    Not much for fighting myself. I'll do it if backed into a corner but would rather not. Make-up sex can be fab. With me though if I'm pissed enough it will take a little while. Can't get all hot and bothered if I am feeling like slapping the shit out of someone...just saying. :)

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  10. Mina BurrowsApril 19, 2013 at 9:01 PM

    I'm with Juliette. :P

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    1. Mina LoboApril 20, 2013 at 6:16 PM

      Uh...I had to look up who that fella was, but, having been enlightened, am in full agreement. ;-)

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  11. AnonymousApril 21, 2013 at 12:12 AM

    So, what happens if you dream about a knock-down, drag-out fight? Does he still get makeup sex?

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  12. UnknownApril 24, 2013 at 1:09 AM

    Nothing quite like heated make up sex. Even better is hot angry sex.

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